Read through and pick out some you like. Then test them in the field and those that work the best for you can be added to you repertoire. When you use these she should know you’re having fun and not trying to offend her.

Try to develop your ability to do C&F on the fly because a lot of it is situational and it makes for a bigger effect if you come up with something good in the moment.

“I like this top you’re wearing; it’s great what you can get down at the Salvation Army these days.”
“Look at those heels… you’re a midget in disguise aren’t you?”
“That shirt is cute; I bet they make it in your size.”
“I felt that… you totally just grabbed my ass!”
“Look at the size of that purse! What are you trying to steal?”
“I love the way you dress! It’s almost like you don’t care what anyone else thinks.”
“I’m surprised they let you out of the house with out a helmet.”
“You look pretty good; I’d say you could be a plus size model”
“Would you quit checking me out?! I’m not some sex object you know!”
“I love your fur coat, how many raccoons did you have to kill to make it?”

 Often when you’re out with your girl… or sarging your future girl you’ll come across an AMOG. These AMOGs might think they’re better then you. Are they? No!

Note: When sarging NEVER let an AMOG take you off your pedestal

Most men will get defensive and try to attack the AMOG back with another comment.This is bad! A woman does not want to see you kick the shit out of a guy or try to out cocky him. Just relax; don’t care about it; shrug it off… You’re a PUA up on a pedestal, while these guys are lower then you trying to get what you have. Don’t step down to their level.

So the first step to “bust” the AMOG is to show you’re bullet proof; that nothing can knock you off your pedestal. How?

If the comment is stupid treat it as something stupid.

EX: What do you do when you see someone do something really retarded? Well most people react with, wow that was fucking stupid. They don’t verbally say this though; they express it in their face. It’s called the “what the fuck” look or the “this guy must be stupid” look. So when that guy comes up to you and dishes out some cocky comment about your shoes… don’t fire back. Look up at him and give him that retarded look. Maybe even look at the girl you’re sarging (still with the WTF look) and throw a shrug in there to further establish the theme of “what’s wrong with this guy, is he retarded?”

Now the guy may try to counter with another cocky comment. Possibly something like “wow, look at you all high and mighty”.

If the comment directed at you is humorous take part in the laugh.

EX: “Heh, nice joke bud.” Try and make it friendly so he seems like the lesser.

Else if it wasn’t funny establish that.

EX: “Alright… that’s nice…” or “I’m going for a more mature conversation… Talk to you later”

In then end you always want to establish that you’re higher then him with out feeling threatened and having to use cocky comebacks. Nothing he says should hurt you in a negative way or put you on the defense. Remember stay calm; relaxed; don’t care. After all you’re a PUA; your almighty; he’s the lesser… Not a threat at all…

1. Hand massage

Hand massage is very non-threatening so it’s a good place to start. Simply say give me your hand and then begin. If you don’t know how to hand massage, go to this webpage http://www.aromacaring.co.uk/Hand%20massage.htm . It will give you enough information to get the job done. You don’t have to use a lubricant for hand massage, but if want to and don’t have massage oil, lotion is a suitable substitute.

2. Drop her hand and talk

3. Shoulder/Back Massage

Now that you’re on to shoulder and back massage you need to begin using your seductive voice. That means your going to be speaking lower, softer, and slower. Make sure you ask her what she likes. Some girls like their massages soft while others can take some punishment.

4. Stop massaging and continue talking.

5. Smell her

She should have her back to you if you were just massaging her. Lean up an put your nose about halfway up her neck. Slide it down to her shoulder while smelling her. Your cheek should rub up against her neck as you do this. Tell her (baritone voice) she smells good.

6. Go back to massaging or just talking

7. Bite her

Very close to smelling, but in order to not freak her out, tell her you’re going to bite her first. Rub your lips lightly from mid-neck right to where the neck and the shoulder meet. Now open your mouth so that your teeth slide along her skin and then grab a big hunk (not a little pinch) and bite down with reasonable force and slowly slide your teeth together. Don’t worry about any saliva you leave on her skin. There shouldn’t be much in the first place and it’s unlikely she’ll even notice anyway.

8. Resume massaging/talking

9. Kissing

Turn her over and put your hand on her cheek so that your fingers are near the back of her neck and your thumb is pointing up. Gently move your thumb back and forth and look into her eyes (or triangular gaze). Go in very slowly for the kiss and as soon as your lips touch pull back. Look into her eyes once more, and then go in (slowly) for the kill.

10. Rub Down

Stop kissing and begin to rub your hands along her body. You can do this everywhere but the crotch and breasts. Slide your hand along her thighs and the sides of her stomach. You can also slide your hands over the sides and possibly the top of her breasts, just don’t leave them there. She is much less likely to object if your hands are going elsewhere and they happen to slide past her boobs as compared to just placing them there.

11. Make-Out

Start to kiss more passionately. While kissing slowly slide your hand up her back and into the hair on the back of her head. Grab it and pull down (try this on yourself so you can feel how hard to pull). As you pull her head backward move your kissing down her neck.

12. Off with the shirt!

As you start kissing her body, slide your head down between her breasts and stomach. When your head is at her belly button pull up her shirt a bit and kiss her right above the belly button. Leave the shirt part way up and make your way back to her lips. While kissing slide the shirt fully off.

13. Continue to make-out

14. Preparation

Now you’re going to prepare her bra and pants for removal, but you’re not going to take them off. The first thing you’re going to do is reach around and unclip the bra. If she seems to have a padlock on the thing and you can’t get it don’t worry about it, we’ll deal with that later. If you do get it just leave the bra unhooked, don’t take it off. Next, kiss your way down to her belly button again. Undo the top button and move back up to her lips. Do this twice more unzipping halfway on the second trip and the rest of the way on the third.

15. Resume the make-out

16. Turn her on

Reach down and rub her under the jeans but over the panties. See if you can make her moan ; ).

17. Go back to kissing and rubbing

18. Sex

Take her bra off (should be pretty easy if you unclipped it). If you couldn’t get it before just ask her for help. You should be far enough along that she will comply. Then reach under her panties and remove both the jeans and panties at the same time. Use your dick to play with her clitoris and tease her for a bit, then have sex.

I know your probably thinking that this will take rediculous amounts of time and to tell you the truth it can. But it’s going to stop a lot of resistance you will encounter. All I ask is that you try it before you reject it.

Scenario 1: You approach with your opener and right off the bat she says “I have a boyfriend” (which won’t happen if you used a non-threatening opener) obviously she just wants you to fuck off. Whether she has a boyfriend or not doesn’t matter, she just wants you gone. Just plow for a bit and if you can’t turn it around eject.

Scenario 2: You approach and get in the set. You’re talking and she mentions something about her boyfriend. If she just casually mentioned him she’s probably not lying, but keep an eye out. Some of the nicer girls will do it to get you to leave when they’re too shy to tell you to piss off. She may be lying she may not, but either way most guys will leave because she is taken. You however, should totally ignore it. It’s not a problem. However if she keeps talking about him, cut her off (politely and discreetly) and change the subject.

Scenario 3: You were able to join the set, and everything went well. You isolated your target and started to escalate. In the middle of your escalation she blurts “I have a boyfriend!” All that means is that you escalated too fast and she wasn’t comfortable. Ignore her remark, step it down a notch, and continue with escalation. If she pushes the boyfriend again, gauge her tone and the way she says it. If it’s something like “I shouldn’t be doing this, I have a boyfriend” in a quiet, reserved voice, she knows she shouldn’t be doing it, but she wants to. That means you persist. On the other hand if she yells “Stop! I have a boyfriend!” get off her, you don’t want to end up with sexual harassment charges.

Scenario 4: You’re with her and go to set up the Day2 when she tells you she has a boyfriend. If you’ve gotten this far there is almost no point for her to lie, she obviously likes you, and she has to reluctantly tell you she has a boyfriend. Look at her body language (especially eyes and facial expressions) and listen to her tone; that will give everything away. Remember her BF isn’t a problem. All you have to do is say “That’s nice” or any other non-reactive comment then continue your game.

Scenario 5: She doesn’t tell you. That’s it.

If she is insistent on the boyfriend you can try using boyfriend destroyers which can be found here.

THE ULTIMATE BF DESTROYER:

Ignore it. Don’t make an issue of it. The first time she brings up her BF, don’t say anything more than, “That’s cute.” Just keep gaming her. You can break this rule later when you learn to calibrate.
If she brings it up again, there are a few techniques I have that work REALLY well to make take her BF out of her mind and put YOU in his place. (Well, at least make her forget about him for long enough to go home with you.)
They’re all based on a few basic principles. Basically, you want to create a VOID in her life by letting her see that her BF is not fulfilling her needs. Then you show her that you are precisely her-void-shaped and fucking you would make everything alright.

Remember these principles:

First, if you BASH her boyfriend, she will get DEFENSIVE and support him. You’ve just anchored good feelings towards her BF and BAD feelings towards you. Bad idea. This even happens if SHE starts bashing her BF and you AGREE with her.

Second, if you try to convince her that you are better than her BF, the same thing will happen.

Third, if you talk about how awesome her BF is and exaggerate it to impossible proportions and talk about how they are destined to be together forever, this will cause her to re-evaluate her BF in YOUR TERMS… and be disappointed.

Fourth, if you talk about how horrible a BF YOU would be, and why she would never want to date you, she will start to relate that to HER experience with HER boyfriend. It’s sometimes also effective if you do this ironically, telling her how WONDERFUL you would be and then describing all your horrible traits as if they were ideal.

Fifth, use future adventures projection to have her imagining the two of you together. Use this HEAVILY. I cannot stress this enough.

Sixth, fractionate between a joking, tongue-in-cheek, “I’m just kidding” tone and serious, “Is he kidding?” tone depending on how into you she is and how attached she still is to her BF.

Seventh, use false disqualifiers a LOT. Make excuses for why you can’t be with her, especially ones that disqualify yourself. It helps if they are blatantly weak excuses. My favorite is that my other girls take up too much of my time as it is. Use these right after Future Adventures Projection too.

Eighth, just pretend that the words “I have a boyfriend” have NO MEANING at all to you. Continue as if she never said it.

Ninth, she is destined to be yours and you both know it. There is no element of NEEDINESS here.

Combine these principles (and others that I’ve forgotten, and anything IN10SE would care to add) and you can create your own BF Destroying material on the fly. Here are some routines that I’ve created while talking to girls:

(This is from a sarge with a SHB who is “kinda seeing” the manager of a trendy downtown club)
Me: “You’re a lesbian, aren’t you!”
Her: “I’m not a lesbian! But… er… I am kinda seeing someone. He’s about this tall, dark hair [starts describing the manager, who I had seen her eating dinner with after the clubs closed the previous night]”
Me: “Well, it’s a good thing that I like him.”
Her: “Why?”
Me: “Well, because otherwise I’d just steal you from him, take you to a desert island, and spend a week drinking rum, sun-bathing, and skinny-dipping with you. [I could have gone on with the future adventures projection, but I decided not to.] But that will never happen. So, tell me, how long have you been ‘kinda seeing’ him?”
Her: “Oh, just a few weeks now.”
Me: “Wow, you know, just from the way your eyes are all bright and your skin is glowing, I can tell that you are totally in love with this guy. In fact, I predict that a year from now, you will be happily married with 1.5 kids and a white picket fence.” [said very tongue in cheek]
Her: “I don’t want to get married, and I certainly don’t want kids right now! I’m an independent woman!”
Me: “Of course you are. But he’s just so perfect for you! I bet he buys you flowers every day you see him. I’m sure that he is always a perfect gentleman and never even LOOKS at another girl while the two of you are together.” [note: I had been blatantly gaming girls all night, right in front of her, and getting #s.]

Other stuff to do and a general structure:

She mentions her BF and starts qualifying him somehow (”Oh, he’s so X. I love him so much”). You use this when you start a FUTURE ADVENTURES PROJECTION:

“So I suppose that since I like him and I don’t want to hurt his feelings and everything, we will have to conduct our moonlit tryst secretly. He must never know of our clandestine meetings.”
Then you build up her BF with:

“You know what? It sounds like you guys are totally in love. I can totally tell that he’s the PERFECT guy for you and you will ALWAYS be together. In fact, I bet he’ll propose to you soon and you’ll get married and have kids and live in a nice house with a white picket fence. And you know, I just couldn’t live with myself if I ruined the rest of your life with him because he is your PERFECT BOYFRIEND.”

Then she starts bashing her own boyfriend (”Well, sometimes he’s mean to me. Blah blah blah”) and you say,

“Well, if I was your boyfriend, I wouldn’t be like that at all. I would call you three times a day JUST to find out where you were and what you were doing and who you were with. I would get mad if you didn’t call me EVERY day because I would love you SOOOOO much. I would go out drinking with the guys every weekend so you could have your personal space to do whatever it is that girls do… I don’t know, cooking and cleaning and such. Oh, and I would forget all our anniversaries and break up with you on valentines day.”

So, the idea is:
She mentions the BF,
You ignore it.
She mentions him again,
You start three threads going:
One is future adventures projections of you and her having sex. But you use imagery that she can fantasize about (If you don’t know, go read a romance novel) and disqualify yourself. (”Yeah, but that will never happen.”) This raises buying temp.

The second is a thread that describes him as the ideal boyfriend so his faults are amplified. This is a DHV.

The third is a thread that describes you as a horrible boyfriend. You can do it ironically if you want. Basically, it’s a DLV and a false-disqualifier.

In fact, these anti-BF techniques work so well that I use them all the time on girls that are single too. I just start talking about past relationships or the ideal guy, etc, etc. Or I start future adventures projections about our illicit meetings, running away from the paparazzi in LA, getting pictures of us kissing in the National Enquirer, etc, etc.

Harmless

Originally posted on fastseduction.com by Harmless

Whenever you go out have a condom or two in your wallet. Occasionally, she’ll end up holding my wallet for some reason (in which she’ll likely trifle through it) or I’ll have to get it out for another reason. If she goes through it, make sure the condoms are placed so she can easily see them. If you have to get it out for some reason, just open it wide enough so she can see them.

This hints that you’re sexually active, but keep reading there are two parts.

If you don’t get the lay the first night and need to set up a Day2, Day3, etc. you can do this. This time, take the condoms out or put different ones (noticeably different) in. Open your wallet again or let her handle it for a while. She’ll believe that you’ve had to use those condoms between your two meetings which shouldn’t be too long.

My wallet has a zipper in the back for random things that’s pretty well hidden. If you have one like this you can put the condoms in there that way you won’t have to keep taking them out and putting them somewhere else.

Pick out a few that you like or make up some of your own. Then test them in the field and those that work the best for you can be added to you repertoire. Some of these need to be delivered with a smile so she knows you’re not being purposefully mean. Others need to be said with a serious and aloof attitude. Hopefully you can differentiate.

“Is that a hair piece?”
“I love your whiny accent!”
“Hey, quit interrupting me, geez.”
“We need to get you a helmet so you don’t hurt yourself.”
“I love the way you dress! It’s almost like you don’t care what anyone else thinks.”
“Do you dress in the dark?”
“Is that lipstick on your teeth?”
“That is a great hairstyle. I really like the o-natural look you got going.”
“You like the sound of your own voice don’t you?”
“You’ve got something in your teeth.”

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Well you’ve probably figured it out if you’re on this website. NICE GUYS DON’T GET LAID. That seems counter-intuitive though doesn’t it? Wouldn’t she rather have a stable guy with a good job, no criminal record, and is kind to her instead of some abusive bastard? The logical answer is yes, hell even she thinks that’s what she wants. So why does she always go with the seemingly wrong choice?

The problem is attraction. If you know anything about human nature it’s that our emotions always override our logic. We’re designed that way over years and years of evolution. Our emotions are what kept our ancestors alive. For example, those who didn’t feel fear when they came in contact with deadly animals, let’s say bears, where quickly mauled to death. So even though she knows the nice guy is the smarter choice her emotions tell her that this jerk is going to give her and any of her offspring a better chance of surviving, even if he is abusive. So she is attracted to him. This does not mean you’ll have to be a dick to get the girl. I’m pretty sure that all methods allow you to be nice at some point.

Let’s examine what exactly is unattractive about “nice guys.”

When she looks at a “nice guy” what does she see? A nice guy usually has horrible body language. He can’t look her in the eye, he may have his hands in his pockets, he probably isn’t smiling, and it’s unlikely that he knows how to take up space with his body. Crappy body language is a dead give away that you’re a beta male.

Let’s say this nice guy gets the balls and actually approaches a woman. How does he talk? His voice is probably meek and wimpy, he apologizes for talking to her (“Hey, sorry to bother you but…”), and he likely mumbles and says a lot of uhhs and umms.

If she feels sorry for you she might just accept your offer and go out with you. So where does a nice guy take a girl for a date? To dinner of course! Now in her eyes what does that mean? Not only is it the same thing she’s done with everyone else, but it seems like you’re bribing her to come out with you. If you have to buy her things in order to get her to go out with you, she’s going to think you’re compensating for something and she’s probably right. Every other guy that took her to dinner lacked any attractive qualities and they hoped money could buy them out. It’s manipulative.

Now I know that as guys we’re not trying to be manipulative, we just want to show that we’re good providers and we can take care of our women, but that’s not how she’s going to see it. Keep the expensive dates for your LTRs, not only will you become more successful with women, but you’ll save money too.

None of the aforementioned are traits of a leader. If you’re a “nice guy” the only time you’re going to get laid is when she feels like she owes it to you, or when you beg until she concedes just so you’ll shut up. So unless you want to be her bitch, I suggest you start (or continue) acting like a real man.

Like all of my articles, please ask if something is unclear and I will elaborate for you.

Have a life outside the forums. Do things with friends that aren’t associated with pick up. I’m sure that many of you will want to be the best with women and that’s understandable. I’m willing to bet that almost everyone here has had little to no success with women at one point in their life. I know that you want to make up for lost time. All of that is fine, but remember even good things are bad in large doses. If you feel you’re getting too caught up in this, take a break from it. Don’t sarge and stop visiting the website until you think that you’re ready to come back.

I’m going to hit you with some statistics, but I promise it’s only a few. You are already better than 99% of guys out there because you know this stuff. I believe I read somewhere that the average guy has sex with 3 different women in his lifetime. If you are committed to learning this you’ll be ahead of the curve quickly. So relax and just take it one step at a time.