So you’re into this girl, and you think everything is going great. So you ask her to go out some time (to a Day2). But then she hits you with the BF. “Oh I can’t… I have a boyfriend.” The first thing to do whenever a girl says she has a boyfriend is to determine if she’s serious or is just trying to get rid of you. If you know what to look for (and sometimes even if you don’t) it should take you all of a second to tell. There are about four different times when you’ll hear about the boyfriend. Generally, the more time spent in a set (that’s going well) the less likely she’s going to lie about it.

Scenario 1: You approach with your opener and right off the bat she says “I have a boyfriend” (which won’t happen if you used a non-threatening opener) obviously she just wants you to fuck off. Whether she has a boyfriend or not doesn’t matter, she just wants you gone. Just plow for a bit and if you can’t turn it around eject.

Scenario 2: You approach and get in the set. You’re talking and she mentions something about her boyfriend. If she just casually mentioned him she’s probably not lying, but keep an eye out. Some of the nicer girls will do it to get you to leave when they’re too shy to tell you to piss off. She may be lying she may not, but either way most guys will leave because she is taken. You however, should totally ignore it. It’s not a problem. However if she keeps talking about him, cut her off (politely and discreetly) and change the subject.

Scenario 3: You were able to join the set, and everything went well. You isolated your target and started to escalate. In the middle of your escalation she blurts “I have a boyfriend!” All that means is that you escalated too fast and she wasn’t comfortable. Ignore her remark, step it down a notch, and continue with escalation. If she pushes the boyfriend again, gauge her tone and the way she says it. If it’s something like “I shouldn’t be doing this, I have a boyfriend” in a quiet, reserved voice, she knows she shouldn’t be doing it, but she wants to. That means you persist. On the other hand if she yells “Stop! I have a boyfriend!” get off her, you don’t want to end up with sexual harassment charges.

Scenario 4: You’re with her and go to set up the Day2 when she tells you she has a boyfriend. If you’ve gotten this far there is almost no point for her to lie, she obviously likes you, and she has to reluctantly tell you she has a boyfriend. Look at her body language (especially eyes and facial expressions) and listen to her tone; that will give everything away. Remember her BF isn’t a problem. All you have to do is say “That’s nice” or any other non-reactive comment then continue your game.

Scenario 5: She doesn’t tell you. That’s it.

If she is insistent on the boyfriend you can try using boyfriend destroyers which can be found here.