You may be asking yourself, what’s wrong with the way I am? Why do I need to learn this stuff? What’s wrong with being the nice guy?

Well you’ve probably figured it out if you’re on this website. NICE GUYS DON’T GET LAID. That seems counter-intuitive though doesn’t it? Wouldn’t she rather have a stable guy with a good job, no criminal record, and is kind to her instead of some abusive bastard? The logical answer is yes, hell even she thinks that’s what she wants. So why does she always go with the seemingly wrong choice?

The problem is attraction. If you know anything about human nature it’s that our emotions always override our logic. We’re designed that way over years and years of evolution. Our emotions are what kept our ancestors alive. For example, those who didn’t feel fear when they came in contact with deadly animals, let’s say bears, where quickly mauled to death. So even though she knows the nice guy is the smarter choice her emotions tell her that this jerk is going to give her and any of her offspring a better chance of surviving, even if he is abusive. So she is attracted to him. This does not mean you’ll have to be a dick to get the girl. I’m pretty sure that all methods allow you to be nice at some point.

Let’s examine what exactly is unattractive about “nice guys.”

When she looks at a “nice guy” what does she see? A nice guy usually has horrible body language. He can’t look her in the eye, he may have his hands in his pockets, he probably isn’t smiling, and it’s unlikely that he knows how to take up space with his body. Crappy body language is a dead give away that you’re a beta male.

Let’s say this nice guy gets the balls and actually approaches a woman. How does he talk? His voice is probably meek and wimpy, he apologizes for talking to her (“Hey, sorry to bother you but…”), and he likely mumbles and says a lot of uhhs and umms.

If she feels sorry for you she might just accept your offer and go out with you. So where does a nice guy take a girl for a date? To dinner of course! Now in her eyes what does that mean? Not only is it the same thing she’s done with everyone else, but it seems like you’re bribing her to come out with you. If you have to buy her things in order to get her to go out with you, she’s going to think you’re compensating for something and she’s probably right. Every other guy that took her to dinner lacked any attractive qualities and they hoped money could buy them out. It’s manipulative.

Now I know that as guys we’re not trying to be manipulative, we just want to show that we’re good providers and we can take care of our women, but that’s not how she’s going to see it. Keep the expensive dates for your LTRs, not only will you become more successful with women, but you’ll save money too.

None of the aforementioned are traits of a leader. If you’re a “nice guy” the only time you’re going to get laid is when she feels like she owes it to you, or when you beg until she concedes just so you’ll shut up. So unless you want to be her bitch, I suggest you start (or continue) acting like a real man.

Like all of my articles, please ask if something is unclear and I will elaborate for you.