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Sep
Is it stupid that I have not started to date yet? I am 31.?
I am a regular, single, straight, 31 year old guy. I have everything going for me – I am educated, I live with my family, have a nice car, I am in nice shape, I am working on a doctorate, etc. If anyone would have been in a relationship by now, it would have been me.
When guys learn that I am single, they express shock. I don’t know why this happens since most guys I know that are around my age have never had real relationships either. People also don’t believe that I have never had my first kiss yet. Why is that so hard to believe? And what is the rush to be in a relationship?
Take your time, it will happen when your ready.
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It’s not bad, it’s just shocking to some guys cuz
1: by age 31 some men are already married and have kids
2: they have at least kissed someone, usually their first kiss was during teenage years
There’s nothing not right with being single though
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love is a beautiful thing, and to hear that you are 31 and have never kissed a woman before, let alone be in love it could come as a shocker to some people. As long as you’re happy there’s nothing to worry about. but it is better to have loved and lost then to have never loved at all! so i say go find a woman you’re head over heels for and make something wonderful out of it!
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Well its common for teenagers to “explore” and have some sort of experience of a relationship whether it be serious or not.
Im 17, iv had my fair share of girlfreinds, I plan on to continue to study, Im studying now, iv still managed to squeeze in “the cheesy” and “kinky” stuff.
Theres no real rush, but sometimes when you go beyond a certain age, it starts to become hard for guys to meet others socially outside your professional life, so approaching guys becomes dificult etc.
You see how this is panning out, your 31, im also guessing your a virgin, you should consider starting a relationship with someone before you reach a age before you lose your nice shape.
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They react that way b/c in this society it is odd to not even pursue a relationship, not even a casual one. Plus you still live with your mother and dad.
it’s cool your pursuing your education. It means your responsible.
But what does it mean that you forgo relationships for education? Like I said, it doesn’t have to be serious. It sounds like you’ve never dated at all. No first kiss yet.
Questions I would think are, is there a medical reason? Do you have a fear of intimacy? Are you autistic? Are you emotionally imbalanced? Are you immature?
I think most ppl would jump to the conclusion that something is wrong.
Either way, I do wish you all the best in your field of choice and maybe one day, in your relationships. Take care.
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there IS a rush; you’re not going to stay young forever, and at 31 most of the cute smart women will either be taken or in the process of getting a divorce and thus hating all men… >.>
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Dude go find a woman atleast so you can say you dated someone.. 31 isn’t right…
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In general, the average person has dated, kissed, and even had intercourse before age 30. In fact, the large majoroty of late-20′s and early-30′s individuals I know are married and/or have children.
Yes, some guys who are very serious in their academics believe you shouldn’t engage in serious relationships until you’re fully completed university, and that may leave you not persuing a serious relationship until your late 20′s or very early 30′s. However, that doesn’t mean you don’t date casually, either going out a single person (boyfriend/girlfriend) for a short period, or simply going on “dates” with a variety of individiduals.
It’s very rare, in the general population, to find someone who hasn’t yet dated AT ALL and they are around age 30, and even MORE rare that they haven’t even KISSED.
You would have had multiple opportunities by age 31, so, therefore, that communicates to prospective females that you are currently meeting that you have a high rejection rate, and are likely high maintainence, or something is not right with you in some way.
People don’t like what’s not “normal.” They figure someone at your age will have had much more relationship experience, and since you don’t…that frightens some guys so they won’t give you a chance.
Relationships don’t have to clash with your career goals, if you are one of those individuals who decided your academics were too important to you for you to have a relationship. I know I’m not as old, nor as educated as you are, but being a 20 year old big girl who is about to graduate with a bachelor’s degree and afterwards persue a ph.D, I know that even having a SERIOUS relationship (we have been together for 3.5 years) is possible, while maintaining very high GPA, as well as getting plenty of work experience. You just need to be able to prioritize and manage your time well. That’s it. Oh, and believe you can do it, so you can actually live your life a little!!
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