Basically this girl that has worked at a fast food joint and served me for four+ years now is really cute. About a week ago she asked me for my my space (we talk a lot whenever I would go in). We have been talking / testing ever since then.
She has a boyfriend but is extremely unhappy with him, and she told me he is a f*ck up, and worthless. She also said if he does not get his life together she wont be in it anymore.
Well the more I talk to her the more attracted to her I get, but I dont feel its my place to push her to break up with her boyfriend for my benefit even if she is unhappy.
Should I just wait, or what? Thanks…
Thats really good that you sort of respect their relationship and she will see that and really appreciate it. You should wait because shell realize what a great guy you are and that you are right there for her. Dont worry itll all work out
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be subtle, dont push for the break up like you said but agree with her on all topics. its not incriminating and your not doing anything wrong either but at the same time she will feel like your a support to her. win win
I would tell her how you feel, but wait. You never know and its the right thing.
Sounds to me like shes gonna break up with him sooner or later.
Whatever you do, do NOT intervene with their relationship… just let it die, and when it does, make your move.
If its been a while and she hasnt dumped him yet, show her how much better youd be for her… if she complains about him say something like Id never do that to you or something… she might catch on.
Good luck
ask her out bc shes unhappy and she needs to be happy and youll make her happy
well it sounds like theyre not going to last long. so just be a good friend and be there for her when it comes to an end
Wait, it looks like shes got her eye on you.
so dont worry
Just keep being her friend and be there for her. Let her deal with her stuff going on with her lame boyfriend and in the end, shell chose the better guy. And if she doesnt then you dont want to be with her because she clearly has horrible taste haha
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Unless you think that the dude is violent and might mess you up, just go ahead and ask her out on a date. She obviously doesnt like him, but she also seems to display characteristics of someone who is in an abusive relationship (talking about how horrible he is, but still being with him for four years).
U should wait. If things arent going good with her and her bf, then u should be in the picture real soon
Heres the truth…
She has a boyfriend…
You shouldnt be talking to her…
Shes INAPPROPRIATE for giving your her info when she has a boyfriend…
Shes UNTRUSTWORTHY because shes engaging you in flirtation when shes with someone else….
Shes not worth your time…
Move on and find someone who is worthy of your time. :)\
EDIT: If you were her boyfriend right now, would you want her communicating with some guy like she is with you? Sending him texts, email, flirting or whatever? Its inappropriate and shes essentially cheating on him. Cheating (in my book) is defined as doing something with something else that you wouldnt do in front of your significant other. Do you think that shed act the way she does with you if her boyfriend was standing there? Nope, didnt think so.
Shes leading you on and you are too blind to see it. If she was so unhappy with her boyfriend, she wouldnt be with him RIGHT NOW, shed be with you. Im not jealous, Im intelligent and know how girls operate. She loves your attention and you boost her ego. If you were smart, youd let it go.
Plus, Collin, since youre only 20 you couldnt possibly know how things work. Trust my experience when I tell you that shes not worth a moment of your time. Shes shown her true colors… now show yours.
wait, and makesure u support her decisions and let her talk to you about it more and more, if she opens up then she will realize how much better you are for her
best wishes!
if her bf can beat you up stay away if you can beat bf up then dont let that stop you. its her call. encourage her to break up, but you just gotta live your life bro… just dont forget the fight that might occur and be prepared for that.
Its not totally out of line to just let her know that your interested in persueing a relationship and see what she says.
dude i was in your place once now im married with a daughter …dont push her just help her deal with it and everytime you can show her you would make her happybut what ever you do dont let it go i beg you it dose work i sware ask my wifes ex lol hes a f*ck up to and got his a$$ beat when he tried to chrash my wedding( gotta love drunken best men
just wait bro , if shes saying that shes that unhappy and thinks hes a fu*k up then chances are that shes not goin to be with him long so just wait for her
Be a friend to her first. Try to talk to her about her boyfriend, and help her through situations, but dont pressure her to break up with him. If you give her advice, shell know that you care about her and are actually listening to her feelings.
There is a slight chance that if you are helpful then shell be able to work things out with her current BF…but shell also have made an awesome friend too because of you
That might hurt you a little but hopefully that wont be the case.
Hopefully the case will be that she starts spending time with you, realizing that you pay more attention to her and actually have a head on your shoulders unlike her current BF whom she apparently is having issues with. Tell her she deserves better. Just talk to her though- dont push if she doesnt want to open up.
Things will fall into place. Shell probably realize that shes spending so much time with you that she doesnt need him. Then shell break if off and you can start taking it up a notch.
Good luck!
Dont listen to these people that tell you to wait. Waiting is for chumps, tell her that if she wants you, she can either leave him for you now, or risk losing you to someone else.
Waiting may be romantic, but the ones who wait are the ones who get played. Tell her people dont change, and if her boyfriend is worthless, he will remain so for the rest of his life, an ultimatum will not change that. Then date other people if she doesnt want to leave him. She can wait for you if she wants you.
Waiting for her will only lead to useless pining and frail self-esteem as she passes over you for the next guy because youll always be there for her.